Flip through the latest issue of Gulf Weekly.
Which one of us hasn’t waited for the phone to ring or sat in night after night making excuses (to ourselves and to others) as to why our man isn’t spending enough time with us?
We refuse to believe the truth that is staring us, nay, slapping us in the face. Here are three very simple and very easy to notice signs that the love of your life just isn’t interested.
Any man that makes excuses for not calling quite simply isn’t in to you. When a guy is truly interested, you are uppermost on his mind. It doesn’t matter how busy his day is or how high powered an executive he is, if he likes you he’ll want you to know it... HE WILL CALL.
Case in point: When Sarah Wheeler first met a guy she used to go out with, they hit it off instantly. They talked for hours and when it was time to leave he asked for her number. Thinking she’d be clever and play hard to get she told him he couldn’t have her number but she’d meet him at the same place (her local hangout) a couple of nights later. Turns out something came up for him that night and he couldn’t make it but he called around everyone he could think of until he managed to find someone that knew her and got a hold of her number. “The fact that he turned out to be a low down dirty cheating dog and was probably out with some other girl the night we were supposed to meet is irrelevant,” says Sarah. “The point is he went to every effort to let me know I wasn’t being stood up”.
He’s always busy and never has time to spend with you. If your man is spending more time with his friends than he does with you or he always seems to be working late or have somewhere else to be, you can be sure you are not even close to being the most important thing on his mind. As with the phone calling, when a man really likes you, he’ll do whatever he can to make sure he can spend time with you. Nothing will keep him away!
If he’s got an early start in the morning, he’ll go to work tired or hungover or whatever, but he WILL spend time with you and he WILL move mountains to do so. “I used to work nights and my boyfriend used to work 12 to 14 hour days starting at six in the morning but no matter how tired he was after work, he would drop by my work to spend time with me at least four or five times a week and when I was rushed off my feet he would just sit and wait patiently until I had a few minutes to spend with him,” says Nicola King. “He may not be the flowers and romantic dinner kind of guy but just knowing that no matter how long a day he’d had, he still didn’t want to let it go by without spending time with me, made me realise how very important I was to him.”
If you’ve been with a guy for more than two years and he’s not interested in talking about taking the next step, be it saying ‘I love you’, moving in together, getting engaged or getting married, the truth of the matter is he’s not interested. Forget, the ‘I’m not ready’ or ‘I’m not the marrying kind’ or any other excuse a guy can come up with. A man in love will make a commitment. According to the book “He’s just not that into you” by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo: “100 per cent of the guys polled told us they would have no problem marrying a woman who they were positive was the love of their life. One man answered ‘What kind of knucklehead has a problem marrying the love of his life?’”
Face it Sweetpea, if you’re still waiting around after all this time for your man to show you he cares or to make some kind of commitment and he’s showing no sign of doing so, it’s time to wake up, get up, walk out and never look back. You deserve better.
