The battle at home

A self-help guide to assist children in navigating the ongoing crisis, has been released, packed with self-regulation strategies from a licensed clinical psychologist.

According to American Mission Hospital clinical psychologist Dr Feba Percy Paul, who developed the ‘Mental Health Capsule: Self Help for young minds’ guide, the ongoing Iranian attacks in Bahrain have led to a ‘concerning rise’ in children experiencing panic attacks during the night.

She also noted that health providers are calling on parents and caregivers to provide a supportive environment at home in these difficult times.

“We’ve noticed a concerning rise in children experiencing panic attacks during the night,” Dr Feba told GulfWeekly, adding that emergency and night shift pediatricians requested that she prepare this guide.

“Parents and caregivers are having a tough time getting to calm and assure a child during blasts. These tips might look simple but when practised in real time, it’s a great relief.”

According to Dr Feba, children and adults process war trauma differently due to their developmental stages.

Children’s brains are still developing, so trauma often manifests through behavioural changes, fears, and emotional expressions like nightmares or withdrawal.

“They may understand and cope with trauma through play or drawing, but it can impact their emotional growth long-term,” she explained.

“Adults, with more developed cognitive abilities, tend to process trauma through understanding and reflection, but may also experience chronic stress, guilt, or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

“Both groups require tailored support to help them heal, considering their unique ways of experiencing and expressing trauma.”

Dr Feba noted that some of the children she is seeing in these times are struggling to regulate their emotions because of unstable domestic relationships.

“There are many homes with unstable parenting and relationships and children are struggling to regulate their emotions - the battle at home is more difficult to fight,” she explained.

Strong social support, stable relationships, a sense of safety and positive coping skills are key to building resilience amongst children.

While some are able to remain hopeful and continue their daily routines, other children may feel the danger more intensely, especially if they lack support, and experience heightened fear which can hinder their ability to self-regulate.

The AMH mental health capsule covers coping tips for children like taking deep breaths, drawing and colouring their feelings and doing something selfless, as well as a quick strategy to centre oneself during moments of crisis.

COPING TIPS FOR CHILDREN:

•             Take deep breaths: inhale the courage, exhale the worries. Breathe in slowly like you’re smelling a yummy cake, then breathe out like you’re blowing out birthday candles.

•             Talk to someone you trust. Sharing your feelings makes your heart feel lighter. Share how you     feel with a parent, teacher, or a       good friend.

                You’re never alone!

•             Draw or colour your feelings. Every colour is a feeling, and your art is your superpower! Use                         colours and pictures to show how you’re feeling inside. Art can make you feel better.

•             Remember happy memories. Happiness is a treasure chest inside your heart. Think of fun times like playing with friends, family hugs, or your favourite story.

•             Do something nice. A little kindness can brighten the world - yours and theirs! Help a family member, share your toys, or do a kind deed.

•             Stay safe and calm. Follow safety rules and listen to grown-ups.

•             Think of hope. Things will get better and brighter days are coming. You are special, and taking care of yourself is the best gift you can give.

•             Eat healthy snacks, get plenty of rest, and do fun activities.

•             Create a comfort corner with your favourite blankets, toys, or stuffed animals where you                               can relax.

THE 5-4-3-2-1 METHOD TO CALM ANXIETY

5.            Look around and name five things you can see. For example - a clock, tree, toy, picture or book.

4.            Touch and name four things you can feel like the texture of your clothes, the chair, your hair or the ground under your feet.

3.            Listen and identify three sounds you can hear. For example - birds, a car, someone talking.

2.            Notice two things you can smell like food, soap or fresh air.